Insomnia

It is half past midnight and I cannot sleep. Insomnia is starting to be a more common occurrence for me. I don’t know if it is early menopause rearing its head or simply the fact that life is going along fairly smoothly at the moment. I’ve gotten so accustomed to life being one huge anxiety attack punctuated by different crises that the relative quiet of normalcy is disturbing. I find myself waiting for the other shoe to drop.

Of course, the wakefulness of tonight might also be attributable to Hubby’s being away on a trip. I don’t sleep well when he is not providing that metronomic beat of snores from the other side of the bed. Yes, I snore, too, but I claim it is in self-defense. A join-‘em if you can’t beat ‘em philosophy, if you will.

Whatever the cause, I found myself “writing” in my head while staring at the bedside clock so I knew it was useless to try to chase down the Sandman; I find myself here in front of my dual-screened Dell, pecking away to get these thoughts out of my head. ‘Tis the writer’s curse, this compulsion to “get it out, get it down”. I don’t imagine engineers often find themselves awake at odd hours designing motors, or bridges, or waste water plants.

I’ve spent the last week feeling my way around Facebook at the insistence of my friend Haley. I consider myself fairly technically astute. After all, I make my living on a computer and my audience is mostly web-based for the work I do. Still, I had resisted the whole social networking trend with the logic that I spend all my working day in front of a computer so I don’t want to spend my leisure time there. It seemed more the realm of my son’s world than mine. After a week of surfing, I’m not so sure.

I’ve discovered something disturbing this week. The old friends with whom I went to high school have all gotten old. I am not one to deny my age. In fact, I am proud of every hard-earned gray hair I have. I’m 43 and feel 63 on some days. Unlike a 63-year-old, however, I am blessed/cursed with a memory that is exceptional in terms of trivia recall. I have all sorts of useless crap stored in my head about my childhood and teenage years before Life with a capital L hit. For example, I remember that my good friend Monica’s favorite stuffed animal was named Boo Boo Kitty. I remember that Lisa L., our class valedictorian, took the ACT test three times to score one point higher (a 30) so she would get a scholarship to the college of her choice. I remember that Celina Harris’s mother was French and Celina moved away from our hometown in fourth grade. Why do I have all this junk crammed into my head?

After surfing around Facebook for a week, I’ve found some of the old classmates with whom I went to school but they don’t look like my crystal clear memories anymore. I’m not sure I like that. I think I preferred that we were all still 18 somewhere in my mind and none of us had grown fat, lost our hair, lost a limb, or even lost our lives. I believe I’ve come face-to-face with my own mortality.

I find that odd, because so much of the recent years of my life have been dominated by the death of loved ones or death on the horizon. My parents are dead as are all my grandparents. If you have lost your parents, you know the strange feeling you get when you realize you are now the grown up in the scenario. I have a brother who is quite ill with a genetic disease that I may or may not have. It’s been hard to ignore Life lately. Yet, somehow, I managed to keep those years from 1966 to 1984 encapsulated in a memory bubble and convinced myself that the occupants of that bubble were as frozen in time as the figures inside a snow globe.

I look at my son now and think about how he will look back upon these teenage years of his when he is in his 40’s. I wonder what will stand out to him. By what events will he mark Before and After? What will he say when he says “I can remember when we didn’t have ____”?

My generation was fortunate to grow up during years of great change. I think of my parents’ generation (born in the early 30’s) and they didn’t see a lot of technological change in their youth. They went through the Depression and World War II, the Korean War and the Cold War but those were events, not changes to things that impacted daily lives. Sure, they saw the advent of TV and the Bomb but they were grown and having us by the time the Space Race revved up and the Soviet Union was a menace on our back doorstep. Isn’t it ironic that we now think of those as the “good old days” of knowing your enemy?

One of my earliest memories is of the Lunar Landing in 1969. My father – heck, my entire town – was integrally involved in the space program and I am sure I am not the only toddler who was forced to sit in front of the TV in July of 1969 to watch Neil Armstrong make history. I think that falls into the Event category, though, much like the Cuban Missile Crisis. My thought process is leading to things that are different, things I can say “I remember the first time”.

Here’s a list. Maybe if I get these out, I can find sleep tonight.

I can remember the first:
Time I saw a calculator. It was about the size of a box of checks and did the basic functions (no square roots or exponents).

Time I saw a microwave. It was huge and we were all a bit afraid to stand too close to it. All the convenience stores had big warning signs on the doors that a microwave was in use on the premises.

Time I saw a computer. It was a big mainframe with huge tape drives and lots of toggle switches and lights. I saw one similar in the Smithsonian last year.

Data sheets I ever saw. That same computer spit out reams and reams (and I mean huge feet-stacks) of green and white lined paper. My dad brought it home for me to use to color pictures on the back side.

Car we ever had that had air conditioning. My mom still refused to use it, though, because it made the car overheat.

IBM Wheelwriter typewriter. It was a huge improvement over the IBM Selectric I had learned to type on because it had an auto-correct function, much like the backspace on today’s PCs. Oh the joy of not having to use a typewriter eraser!

Walkman. I saved up and bought one for about $100. It was an AM/FM/Cassette and it was a big advancement over the 8-track tape deck.

Pair of Nike tennis shoes that hit the market. I again saved up my allowance and bought a pair.

Personal computer. My high school had one and it was on a cart that they wheeled around. I never was able to actually touch it, though, because all the math whizzes used it. I think I was a bit afraid of it anyway. At that time, War Games was a hit movie and we had all sorts of illusions about computers.

Time the Space Shuttle flew. Now, over twenty five years later, I am (hopefully) going to get to see my first in-person launch next month.

Camaro with T-tops. Now that was a hot car!

Time the interstate opened. It spelled the death of Hwy. 41 through our town and all the motels and restaurants that were supported by the traffic.

Video on MTV. That was when MTV still showed videos.

Sesame Street Show.

Mobile phone. It was not a cellphone but a CAR phone!

Video game – yes, it was Pong.

There are a lot of things which I saw die, too. Things that my son will never see or experience. Here is a list:

Outhouses and chamber pots. My grandparents lived in a house without plumbing and I experienced peeing in a pot and in a cold shack in the middle of winter

Cold water drunk from a shaded rain barrel at the corner of the house

TV dinners cooked in the oven, not the microwave; ditto for baked potatoes, hot dogs, popcorn…

Water glasses brought to the table by the waitress on her first trip after you sit down

One-screened movie theaters

Sitting on the porch at night because it’s too hot inside to sleep

Volkswagen bugs (the old kind)

TV with only 5 channels – Channel 2, Channel 4, Channel 5, Channel 8 and Channel 17

TV from rabbit ears and in black and white

NASCAR sponsored by Winston or Budweiser or other politically incorrect companies.

Old Timers Day

Home-made Halloween costumes

Everything closed on Sunday

Colored toilet paper

Smallpox vaccine scars

Houses heated by coal

Going to school with the same kids from kindergarten all the way through high school

Filmstrips and 16mm films

Cards in the backs of library books

Chalkdust

Polio victims

Riding in the car with no seat belts

What are the next twenty years going to bring? Looking backward at the last two decades and extrapolating forward, it is unfathomable. Just when we feel like we can say “There is nothing new to be invented”, we prove ourselves wrong. What will our children remember fondly when we are gone and they are looking backward? Gosh, I hope it is something good – like flying cars. They have been promising us flying cars forever!

I'm Lovin' It

The world is full of wonderful, pithy adages. Phrases like “what goes around, comes around” and “people who live in glass houses shouldn’t throw stones” are vividly descriptive and often perfectly describe a situation or occurrence. The phrase “teenage boys will eat anything” is one such perfect phrase and it was proven in our house not long ago.

Son is now nearing the age of 16 and has shot up to over six feet in height over the past year and is still growing. His sophomore buddies are all growing too so when they descend on our house, it is akin to a plague of locusts from the Old Testament. Cabinets are stripped bare; freezers are emptied; and refrigerators are decimated. I’ve seen five packages of Oreo Double Stuff cookies disappear overnight.

A few weeks ago, Son’s two best buds – the Apostles (called such because their real names are Peter and Andrew) – came over to spend the night and play Xbox. I had stocked up the refrigerator with food that was easy-to-fix and did not require any skill other than knowing how to set a microwave. My method is to provide sustenance that they can fix themselves and then just get out of the way. I’ve tried cooking “real” meals for them but normal food is not what they crave during all-night Xbox marathons. They want junk food, plain and simple.

This particular weekend, I had thought I was being smart when I purchased a tub of Chi-Chi’s prepared taco meat and some tortillas. The boys would be able to heat up the meat and make their own tacos or burritos or whatever floated their boat. When Son came into my office and asked about supper I told him there was a container of taco meat in the fridge and some tortillas – they could construct their own soft tacos. They were thrilled! I could hear them in the kitchen arguing over the cheese and salsa as they worked to do a “Taco Bell” at home.

An hour or so later, I wandered into the kitchen to assess the damage and pour myself a Friday-night glass of wine. As I was reaching into the back of the fridge for the pinot grigio, my eye caught on the Chi-Chi’s taco meat container, exactly where I had put it under the sour cream when I unloaded groceries. It had obviously not been touched or moved. Huh? I KNEW they had eaten tacos because Son had asked me specifically how long to heat up the container of meat.

I straightened up and scanned the countertops. There was the empty tortilla bag; there was the shredded cheese; there was the salsa jar…and OH NO! There was the dog food container!

We have a very elderly Chihuahua named Clyde who has few teeth and a very picky appetite. He also has the early stages of kidney failure so I prepare special food for him about once a week. The “Clyde Food” contains hamburger meat, dog vitamins, cod liver oil, beef gravy and ground up Science Diet K/D Prescription Diet dry dog food. I prepare it in a week’s supply and store it in a Tupperware container in the fridge. Since he only eats about a tablespoon at a time, the container lasts quite awhile.

Evidently, what pleases Clyde pleases teenage boys, too, because they had eaten every last crumb of his homemade kibble. And they didn’t even know it!
I yelled out to the living room for them to come to the kitchen. They trooped in expecting to get a lecture on dirty dishes left but I casually asked “So, how were the tacos?”

They were enthusiastic – “Oh, they were great!”, “Yummy!”, “Really good!”

So I asked “Anyone feeling queasy or like you have an overwhelming urge to bark?”
I was faced with puzzled looks.

“Guys, you ate the dog food,” I stated. “HERE’S the taco meat.” I held up the unopened tub of Chi-Chi’s.

These three strapping young men turned white as sheets. No one uttered a word. After several moments of stunned silence, they looked at each other and then Peter said “Well, it was good! Clyde’s a lucky dog!”