By Maye Belle Mitchell
This week was Thanksgiving! I hope you all enjoyed your special holiday meals with kith and kin. I am so thrilled to be writing this new column for our weekly newspaper, The Hoo Doo Herald! It was one of the many things I enumerated during the blessing over our turducken and turnips this year. Praise be to the Lord! The opportunity to put pen to paper and report on the fascinating lives of members of our community is just thrilling and I hope to be a true blessing to our wonderful town!
Speaking of Thanksgiving, did you know a turkey can run 20 miles an hour when spooked? That’s a fast bird! Unfortunately for him, a bullet flies a bit faster and a four-wheeler can do at least twice that. No hope for the turkey when faced with one of our hunters here in Rawlins County, is there! Carter Baker was quoted as saying “Ain’t no bird goin’ to out run my Remington 20 gauge” and he is so right. We have some of the finest hunters in the world here!
The Maye Belle Mitchell School of Etiquette would like to welcome Miss Eugenia Kay Arthur and Miss Bobbi Lee Haskell to our Thursday afternoon class. These two young ladies join the rest of the class of eight students who are learning the fine art of being a Southern Lady. I want to remind everyone of the High Tea on Sunday afternoon sponsored by the Ladies Guild of the First Baptist Church of Hoo Doo. If any ladies out there can contribute sweet meats, tea cakes, or other fine finger food, please bring those dishes to the Fellowship Hall of the church on Saturday afternoon.
Congratulations to the proud new parents Albert and Terri Lynne Rouchet on the early arrival of their bouncing baby girl Antoinette Lucille Rouchet. Little Antoinette, a honeymoon baby, arrived a month early and weighed in at a healthy nine pounds, three ounces. Proud grandparents are Charles and Annette Marie Rouchet and Tom and Shirley Sue Bobo. Shirley Sue Bobo is quoted as saying “I’m not surprised little Antoinette Lucille came eight months after the honeymoon – she was such a big baby she just had to gain some elbow room. All us Bobo’s have big, early babies, you know.”
The insanity of the holidays is upon us and I want to encourage all of you to remember the true reason for the season – the birth of our Lord and Savior. Jesus had a lot in common with little Antoinette Lucille – he was a surprise and his earthly daddy was a little concerned at the beginning. Everything worked out in the end, though! We don’t know how big the baby Jesus was but Mary couldn’t have had a better midwife than the angels of heaven and the Holy Spirit praise God! I do think the Father might have arranged a bit of a better room for them. After all, Mary was a lady and giving birth around those stinky cows and sheep must not have been pleasant. But that was not for me to decide, now, was it!
A community Thanksgiving Service was held at the Hoo Doo Church of Christ last Sunday at 6:00 pm. It was a great time for the community members to get together and fellowship in the name of the Lord. I attended as a member of the press and was pleased at the wonderful array of delicious homemade dishes that were brought by the ladies of the church. Terry Gayle Hampton – I simply MUST get that deviled eggs recipe from you! It was to die for! The punch Bucky Bumpus made up was also exquisite! I could recognize the taste of lemons, Sundrop soda and pineapple juice but there was something else there in the recipe I just couldn’t put my finger on. It was the crowning touch whatever it was!
On Sunday afternoon, after a simply inspiring sermon by Reverend Hezekiah Smoot at the First Baptist Church, my dear husband Porter took me to dinner at the End of the Road restaurant across the river in Caneyville. The food was fabulous and the Christmas décor was simply divine. Porter and I so enjoyed our luncheon. If you haven’t patronized this lovely new, locally-owned eating establishment, I want to truly encourage you. The Divines who run the restaurant are good Christian people of the Lutheran persuasion and have provided a nice eatery for our community. I partook of the lunch special – beans and hamhocks accompanied by turnip greens, fried okra, and Cynthia Divine’s wonderful cornbread muffins.
Speaking of Porter, I want to publicly declare my undying love and devotion to my handsome and virile husband and wish him a fabulous 49th birthday! Happy Birthday Sweetie Pie! One more year before you hit the big 5-0! While I have not quite hit the 4-0 mark myself, I can see it looming on the horizon. I hope you have a supremely happy year and I love you so much Muggle Wumps!
We have our own little actress among us – Miss Carrie Jo Footstone made her acting debut this week at the Dixie Dance Hall and Theater in Viola. She played the role of the light pole in the musical “Singing in the Rain”. She has been taking acting classes for several months at Ted Flower’s Acting School in downtown Hoo Doo. This was her first performance and she did a superb job! She held a straight face the entire performance – something I sure couldn’t do!
The Overcoming Adversity group of Black Creek met last Tuesday for their Thanksgiving meal. Before the meal, the invocation was given by Johnny Mize and then the eating took place. In his prayer, Johnny encouraged us all to be thankful for our blessings. Boner MacIntyre read the minutes of the previous meeting. Door prizes of a gift certificate for a car wash and a cheese board were awarded to ecstatic winners Kathy Jo Martin and Harold Lakey. The next meeting will be in January.
Joe Bob and Jerri Ann Cravens were in town from their home in distant Nashville to visit. They ate at the Hoo Doo Family Restaurant where they dined on fried catfish and chitlins. After their lovely dinner, they attended a movie at the Palace Theater where they enjoyed popcorn, Diet Cokes, Raisinets, and Whoppers as an after-luncheon treat.
I have never seen so many people in our community gathered to see a movie as I saw Wednesday night for the premier of Full Moon. The movie is supposedly a dark flick that revolves around a teenage romance between humans and vampires. As a good Christian, I was horrified to see so many young, impressionable young ladies standing in line to buy tickets. It’s hard to believe parents would allow them to see a movie that promotes demons and evil beings as romantic characters. I am proud to say none of the students of the Maye Belle Mitchell School of Etiquette were in attendance!
The funeral for Glennis Ruth-Ann Webb was held on Friday. The Hoo Doo Funeral Home reported a strong turnout for the service despite the holiday and Mrs. Webb’s history of being a liberal all her life. We extend Christian sympathy to the family.
If you have news you would like to be printed, simply email me or drop by the Maye Belle Mitchell School of Etiquette on Tuesdays or Thursdays! I would dearly love to hear from you! God bless and allow me to leave you with this thought to guard your heart this week “They are of the world: therefore speak they of the world” I John 4:5. Tootle-loo sweet readers!
Sunday, November 29, 2009
Saturday, June 27, 2009
Insomnia
It is half past midnight and I cannot sleep. Insomnia is starting to be a more common occurrence for me. I don’t know if it is early menopause rearing its head or simply the fact that life is going along fairly smoothly at the moment. I’ve gotten so accustomed to life being one huge anxiety attack punctuated by different crises that the relative quiet of normalcy is disturbing. I find myself waiting for the other shoe to drop.
Of course, the wakefulness of tonight might also be attributable to Hubby’s being away on a trip. I don’t sleep well when he is not providing that metronomic beat of snores from the other side of the bed. Yes, I snore, too, but I claim it is in self-defense. A join-‘em if you can’t beat ‘em philosophy, if you will.
Whatever the cause, I found myself “writing” in my head while staring at the bedside clock so I knew it was useless to try to chase down the Sandman; I find myself here in front of my dual-screened Dell, pecking away to get these thoughts out of my head. ‘Tis the writer’s curse, this compulsion to “get it out, get it down”. I don’t imagine engineers often find themselves awake at odd hours designing motors, or bridges, or waste water plants.
I’ve spent the last week feeling my way around Facebook at the insistence of my friend Haley. I consider myself fairly technically astute. After all, I make my living on a computer and my audience is mostly web-based for the work I do. Still, I had resisted the whole social networking trend with the logic that I spend all my working day in front of a computer so I don’t want to spend my leisure time there. It seemed more the realm of my son’s world than mine. After a week of surfing, I’m not so sure.
I’ve discovered something disturbing this week. The old friends with whom I went to high school have all gotten old. I am not one to deny my age. In fact, I am proud of every hard-earned gray hair I have. I’m 43 and feel 63 on some days. Unlike a 63-year-old, however, I am blessed/cursed with a memory that is exceptional in terms of trivia recall. I have all sorts of useless crap stored in my head about my childhood and teenage years before Life with a capital L hit. For example, I remember that my good friend Monica’s favorite stuffed animal was named Boo Boo Kitty. I remember that Lisa L., our class valedictorian, took the ACT test three times to score one point higher (a 30) so she would get a scholarship to the college of her choice. I remember that Celina Harris’s mother was French and Celina moved away from our hometown in fourth grade. Why do I have all this junk crammed into my head?
After surfing around Facebook for a week, I’ve found some of the old classmates with whom I went to school but they don’t look like my crystal clear memories anymore. I’m not sure I like that. I think I preferred that we were all still 18 somewhere in my mind and none of us had grown fat, lost our hair, lost a limb, or even lost our lives. I believe I’ve come face-to-face with my own mortality.
I find that odd, because so much of the recent years of my life have been dominated by the death of loved ones or death on the horizon. My parents are dead as are all my grandparents. If you have lost your parents, you know the strange feeling you get when you realize you are now the grown up in the scenario. I have a brother who is quite ill with a genetic disease that I may or may not have. It’s been hard to ignore Life lately. Yet, somehow, I managed to keep those years from 1966 to 1984 encapsulated in a memory bubble and convinced myself that the occupants of that bubble were as frozen in time as the figures inside a snow globe.
I look at my son now and think about how he will look back upon these teenage years of his when he is in his 40’s. I wonder what will stand out to him. By what events will he mark Before and After? What will he say when he says “I can remember when we didn’t have ____”?
My generation was fortunate to grow up during years of great change. I think of my parents’ generation (born in the early 30’s) and they didn’t see a lot of technological change in their youth. They went through the Depression and World War II, the Korean War and the Cold War but those were events, not changes to things that impacted daily lives. Sure, they saw the advent of TV and the Bomb but they were grown and having us by the time the Space Race revved up and the Soviet Union was a menace on our back doorstep. Isn’t it ironic that we now think of those as the “good old days” of knowing your enemy?
One of my earliest memories is of the Lunar Landing in 1969. My father – heck, my entire town – was integrally involved in the space program and I am sure I am not the only toddler who was forced to sit in front of the TV in July of 1969 to watch Neil Armstrong make history. I think that falls into the Event category, though, much like the Cuban Missile Crisis. My thought process is leading to things that are different, things I can say “I remember the first time”.
Here’s a list. Maybe if I get these out, I can find sleep tonight.
I can remember the first:
Time I saw a calculator. It was about the size of a box of checks and did the basic functions (no square roots or exponents).
Time I saw a microwave. It was huge and we were all a bit afraid to stand too close to it. All the convenience stores had big warning signs on the doors that a microwave was in use on the premises.
Time I saw a computer. It was a big mainframe with huge tape drives and lots of toggle switches and lights. I saw one similar in the Smithsonian last year.
Data sheets I ever saw. That same computer spit out reams and reams (and I mean huge feet-stacks) of green and white lined paper. My dad brought it home for me to use to color pictures on the back side.
Car we ever had that had air conditioning. My mom still refused to use it, though, because it made the car overheat.
IBM Wheelwriter typewriter. It was a huge improvement over the IBM Selectric I had learned to type on because it had an auto-correct function, much like the backspace on today’s PCs. Oh the joy of not having to use a typewriter eraser!
Walkman. I saved up and bought one for about $100. It was an AM/FM/Cassette and it was a big advancement over the 8-track tape deck.
Pair of Nike tennis shoes that hit the market. I again saved up my allowance and bought a pair.
Personal computer. My high school had one and it was on a cart that they wheeled around. I never was able to actually touch it, though, because all the math whizzes used it. I think I was a bit afraid of it anyway. At that time, War Games was a hit movie and we had all sorts of illusions about computers.
Time the Space Shuttle flew. Now, over twenty five years later, I am (hopefully) going to get to see my first in-person launch next month.
Camaro with T-tops. Now that was a hot car!
Time the interstate opened. It spelled the death of Hwy. 41 through our town and all the motels and restaurants that were supported by the traffic.
Video on MTV. That was when MTV still showed videos.
Sesame Street Show.
Mobile phone. It was not a cellphone but a CAR phone!
Video game – yes, it was Pong.
There are a lot of things which I saw die, too. Things that my son will never see or experience. Here is a list:
Outhouses and chamber pots. My grandparents lived in a house without plumbing and I experienced peeing in a pot and in a cold shack in the middle of winter
Cold water drunk from a shaded rain barrel at the corner of the house
TV dinners cooked in the oven, not the microwave; ditto for baked potatoes, hot dogs, popcorn…
Water glasses brought to the table by the waitress on her first trip after you sit down
One-screened movie theaters
Sitting on the porch at night because it’s too hot inside to sleep
Volkswagen bugs (the old kind)
TV with only 5 channels – Channel 2, Channel 4, Channel 5, Channel 8 and Channel 17
TV from rabbit ears and in black and white
NASCAR sponsored by Winston or Budweiser or other politically incorrect companies.
Old Timers Day
Home-made Halloween costumes
Everything closed on Sunday
Colored toilet paper
Smallpox vaccine scars
Houses heated by coal
Going to school with the same kids from kindergarten all the way through high school
Filmstrips and 16mm films
Cards in the backs of library books
Chalkdust
Polio victims
Riding in the car with no seat belts
What are the next twenty years going to bring? Looking backward at the last two decades and extrapolating forward, it is unfathomable. Just when we feel like we can say “There is nothing new to be invented”, we prove ourselves wrong. What will our children remember fondly when we are gone and they are looking backward? Gosh, I hope it is something good – like flying cars. They have been promising us flying cars forever!
Of course, the wakefulness of tonight might also be attributable to Hubby’s being away on a trip. I don’t sleep well when he is not providing that metronomic beat of snores from the other side of the bed. Yes, I snore, too, but I claim it is in self-defense. A join-‘em if you can’t beat ‘em philosophy, if you will.
Whatever the cause, I found myself “writing” in my head while staring at the bedside clock so I knew it was useless to try to chase down the Sandman; I find myself here in front of my dual-screened Dell, pecking away to get these thoughts out of my head. ‘Tis the writer’s curse, this compulsion to “get it out, get it down”. I don’t imagine engineers often find themselves awake at odd hours designing motors, or bridges, or waste water plants.
I’ve spent the last week feeling my way around Facebook at the insistence of my friend Haley. I consider myself fairly technically astute. After all, I make my living on a computer and my audience is mostly web-based for the work I do. Still, I had resisted the whole social networking trend with the logic that I spend all my working day in front of a computer so I don’t want to spend my leisure time there. It seemed more the realm of my son’s world than mine. After a week of surfing, I’m not so sure.
I’ve discovered something disturbing this week. The old friends with whom I went to high school have all gotten old. I am not one to deny my age. In fact, I am proud of every hard-earned gray hair I have. I’m 43 and feel 63 on some days. Unlike a 63-year-old, however, I am blessed/cursed with a memory that is exceptional in terms of trivia recall. I have all sorts of useless crap stored in my head about my childhood and teenage years before Life with a capital L hit. For example, I remember that my good friend Monica’s favorite stuffed animal was named Boo Boo Kitty. I remember that Lisa L., our class valedictorian, took the ACT test three times to score one point higher (a 30) so she would get a scholarship to the college of her choice. I remember that Celina Harris’s mother was French and Celina moved away from our hometown in fourth grade. Why do I have all this junk crammed into my head?
After surfing around Facebook for a week, I’ve found some of the old classmates with whom I went to school but they don’t look like my crystal clear memories anymore. I’m not sure I like that. I think I preferred that we were all still 18 somewhere in my mind and none of us had grown fat, lost our hair, lost a limb, or even lost our lives. I believe I’ve come face-to-face with my own mortality.
I find that odd, because so much of the recent years of my life have been dominated by the death of loved ones or death on the horizon. My parents are dead as are all my grandparents. If you have lost your parents, you know the strange feeling you get when you realize you are now the grown up in the scenario. I have a brother who is quite ill with a genetic disease that I may or may not have. It’s been hard to ignore Life lately. Yet, somehow, I managed to keep those years from 1966 to 1984 encapsulated in a memory bubble and convinced myself that the occupants of that bubble were as frozen in time as the figures inside a snow globe.
I look at my son now and think about how he will look back upon these teenage years of his when he is in his 40’s. I wonder what will stand out to him. By what events will he mark Before and After? What will he say when he says “I can remember when we didn’t have ____”?
My generation was fortunate to grow up during years of great change. I think of my parents’ generation (born in the early 30’s) and they didn’t see a lot of technological change in their youth. They went through the Depression and World War II, the Korean War and the Cold War but those were events, not changes to things that impacted daily lives. Sure, they saw the advent of TV and the Bomb but they were grown and having us by the time the Space Race revved up and the Soviet Union was a menace on our back doorstep. Isn’t it ironic that we now think of those as the “good old days” of knowing your enemy?
One of my earliest memories is of the Lunar Landing in 1969. My father – heck, my entire town – was integrally involved in the space program and I am sure I am not the only toddler who was forced to sit in front of the TV in July of 1969 to watch Neil Armstrong make history. I think that falls into the Event category, though, much like the Cuban Missile Crisis. My thought process is leading to things that are different, things I can say “I remember the first time”.
Here’s a list. Maybe if I get these out, I can find sleep tonight.
I can remember the first:
Time I saw a calculator. It was about the size of a box of checks and did the basic functions (no square roots or exponents).
Time I saw a microwave. It was huge and we were all a bit afraid to stand too close to it. All the convenience stores had big warning signs on the doors that a microwave was in use on the premises.
Time I saw a computer. It was a big mainframe with huge tape drives and lots of toggle switches and lights. I saw one similar in the Smithsonian last year.
Data sheets I ever saw. That same computer spit out reams and reams (and I mean huge feet-stacks) of green and white lined paper. My dad brought it home for me to use to color pictures on the back side.
Car we ever had that had air conditioning. My mom still refused to use it, though, because it made the car overheat.
IBM Wheelwriter typewriter. It was a huge improvement over the IBM Selectric I had learned to type on because it had an auto-correct function, much like the backspace on today’s PCs. Oh the joy of not having to use a typewriter eraser!
Walkman. I saved up and bought one for about $100. It was an AM/FM/Cassette and it was a big advancement over the 8-track tape deck.
Pair of Nike tennis shoes that hit the market. I again saved up my allowance and bought a pair.
Personal computer. My high school had one and it was on a cart that they wheeled around. I never was able to actually touch it, though, because all the math whizzes used it. I think I was a bit afraid of it anyway. At that time, War Games was a hit movie and we had all sorts of illusions about computers.
Time the Space Shuttle flew. Now, over twenty five years later, I am (hopefully) going to get to see my first in-person launch next month.
Camaro with T-tops. Now that was a hot car!
Time the interstate opened. It spelled the death of Hwy. 41 through our town and all the motels and restaurants that were supported by the traffic.
Video on MTV. That was when MTV still showed videos.
Sesame Street Show.
Mobile phone. It was not a cellphone but a CAR phone!
Video game – yes, it was Pong.
There are a lot of things which I saw die, too. Things that my son will never see or experience. Here is a list:
Outhouses and chamber pots. My grandparents lived in a house without plumbing and I experienced peeing in a pot and in a cold shack in the middle of winter
Cold water drunk from a shaded rain barrel at the corner of the house
TV dinners cooked in the oven, not the microwave; ditto for baked potatoes, hot dogs, popcorn…
Water glasses brought to the table by the waitress on her first trip after you sit down
One-screened movie theaters
Sitting on the porch at night because it’s too hot inside to sleep
Volkswagen bugs (the old kind)
TV with only 5 channels – Channel 2, Channel 4, Channel 5, Channel 8 and Channel 17
TV from rabbit ears and in black and white
NASCAR sponsored by Winston or Budweiser or other politically incorrect companies.
Old Timers Day
Home-made Halloween costumes
Everything closed on Sunday
Colored toilet paper
Smallpox vaccine scars
Houses heated by coal
Going to school with the same kids from kindergarten all the way through high school
Filmstrips and 16mm films
Cards in the backs of library books
Chalkdust
Polio victims
Riding in the car with no seat belts
What are the next twenty years going to bring? Looking backward at the last two decades and extrapolating forward, it is unfathomable. Just when we feel like we can say “There is nothing new to be invented”, we prove ourselves wrong. What will our children remember fondly when we are gone and they are looking backward? Gosh, I hope it is something good – like flying cars. They have been promising us flying cars forever!
Wednesday, June 24, 2009
I'm Lovin' It
The world is full of wonderful, pithy adages. Phrases like “what goes around, comes around” and “people who live in glass houses shouldn’t throw stones” are vividly descriptive and often perfectly describe a situation or occurrence. The phrase “teenage boys will eat anything” is one such perfect phrase and it was proven in our house not long ago.
Son is now nearing the age of 16 and has shot up to over six feet in height over the past year and is still growing. His sophomore buddies are all growing too so when they descend on our house, it is akin to a plague of locusts from the Old Testament. Cabinets are stripped bare; freezers are emptied; and refrigerators are decimated. I’ve seen five packages of Oreo Double Stuff cookies disappear overnight.
A few weeks ago, Son’s two best buds – the Apostles (called such because their real names are Peter and Andrew) – came over to spend the night and play Xbox. I had stocked up the refrigerator with food that was easy-to-fix and did not require any skill other than knowing how to set a microwave. My method is to provide sustenance that they can fix themselves and then just get out of the way. I’ve tried cooking “real” meals for them but normal food is not what they crave during all-night Xbox marathons. They want junk food, plain and simple.
This particular weekend, I had thought I was being smart when I purchased a tub of Chi-Chi’s prepared taco meat and some tortillas. The boys would be able to heat up the meat and make their own tacos or burritos or whatever floated their boat. When Son came into my office and asked about supper I told him there was a container of taco meat in the fridge and some tortillas – they could construct their own soft tacos. They were thrilled! I could hear them in the kitchen arguing over the cheese and salsa as they worked to do a “Taco Bell” at home.
An hour or so later, I wandered into the kitchen to assess the damage and pour myself a Friday-night glass of wine. As I was reaching into the back of the fridge for the pinot grigio, my eye caught on the Chi-Chi’s taco meat container, exactly where I had put it under the sour cream when I unloaded groceries. It had obviously not been touched or moved. Huh? I KNEW they had eaten tacos because Son had asked me specifically how long to heat up the container of meat.
I straightened up and scanned the countertops. There was the empty tortilla bag; there was the shredded cheese; there was the salsa jar…and OH NO! There was the dog food container!
We have a very elderly Chihuahua named Clyde who has few teeth and a very picky appetite. He also has the early stages of kidney failure so I prepare special food for him about once a week. The “Clyde Food” contains hamburger meat, dog vitamins, cod liver oil, beef gravy and ground up Science Diet K/D Prescription Diet dry dog food. I prepare it in a week’s supply and store it in a Tupperware container in the fridge. Since he only eats about a tablespoon at a time, the container lasts quite awhile.
Evidently, what pleases Clyde pleases teenage boys, too, because they had eaten every last crumb of his homemade kibble. And they didn’t even know it!
I yelled out to the living room for them to come to the kitchen. They trooped in expecting to get a lecture on dirty dishes left but I casually asked “So, how were the tacos?”
They were enthusiastic – “Oh, they were great!”, “Yummy!”, “Really good!”
So I asked “Anyone feeling queasy or like you have an overwhelming urge to bark?”
I was faced with puzzled looks.
“Guys, you ate the dog food,” I stated. “HERE’S the taco meat.” I held up the unopened tub of Chi-Chi’s.
These three strapping young men turned white as sheets. No one uttered a word. After several moments of stunned silence, they looked at each other and then Peter said “Well, it was good! Clyde’s a lucky dog!”
Son is now nearing the age of 16 and has shot up to over six feet in height over the past year and is still growing. His sophomore buddies are all growing too so when they descend on our house, it is akin to a plague of locusts from the Old Testament. Cabinets are stripped bare; freezers are emptied; and refrigerators are decimated. I’ve seen five packages of Oreo Double Stuff cookies disappear overnight.
A few weeks ago, Son’s two best buds – the Apostles (called such because their real names are Peter and Andrew) – came over to spend the night and play Xbox. I had stocked up the refrigerator with food that was easy-to-fix and did not require any skill other than knowing how to set a microwave. My method is to provide sustenance that they can fix themselves and then just get out of the way. I’ve tried cooking “real” meals for them but normal food is not what they crave during all-night Xbox marathons. They want junk food, plain and simple.
This particular weekend, I had thought I was being smart when I purchased a tub of Chi-Chi’s prepared taco meat and some tortillas. The boys would be able to heat up the meat and make their own tacos or burritos or whatever floated their boat. When Son came into my office and asked about supper I told him there was a container of taco meat in the fridge and some tortillas – they could construct their own soft tacos. They were thrilled! I could hear them in the kitchen arguing over the cheese and salsa as they worked to do a “Taco Bell” at home.
An hour or so later, I wandered into the kitchen to assess the damage and pour myself a Friday-night glass of wine. As I was reaching into the back of the fridge for the pinot grigio, my eye caught on the Chi-Chi’s taco meat container, exactly where I had put it under the sour cream when I unloaded groceries. It had obviously not been touched or moved. Huh? I KNEW they had eaten tacos because Son had asked me specifically how long to heat up the container of meat.
I straightened up and scanned the countertops. There was the empty tortilla bag; there was the shredded cheese; there was the salsa jar…and OH NO! There was the dog food container!
We have a very elderly Chihuahua named Clyde who has few teeth and a very picky appetite. He also has the early stages of kidney failure so I prepare special food for him about once a week. The “Clyde Food” contains hamburger meat, dog vitamins, cod liver oil, beef gravy and ground up Science Diet K/D Prescription Diet dry dog food. I prepare it in a week’s supply and store it in a Tupperware container in the fridge. Since he only eats about a tablespoon at a time, the container lasts quite awhile.
Evidently, what pleases Clyde pleases teenage boys, too, because they had eaten every last crumb of his homemade kibble. And they didn’t even know it!
I yelled out to the living room for them to come to the kitchen. They trooped in expecting to get a lecture on dirty dishes left but I casually asked “So, how were the tacos?”
They were enthusiastic – “Oh, they were great!”, “Yummy!”, “Really good!”
So I asked “Anyone feeling queasy or like you have an overwhelming urge to bark?”
I was faced with puzzled looks.
“Guys, you ate the dog food,” I stated. “HERE’S the taco meat.” I held up the unopened tub of Chi-Chi’s.
These three strapping young men turned white as sheets. No one uttered a word. After several moments of stunned silence, they looked at each other and then Peter said “Well, it was good! Clyde’s a lucky dog!”
Monday, January 5, 2009
Adventures in Pain
Last Wednesday, we as a family purchased a family membership at our local gym. Hubby figured it would be something he and son could do together. Son likes it because he can work out and “get buff” with weights. I tag along in a state of grumpy martyrdom. Okay, I realize I need to do something to get my butt moving. I sit in front of a computer twelve hours a day. I got so stiff at one point I had to have physical therapy. I’m trying to figure out a way to write off massage therapy as a business expense. I’m 42 and I’ve gained thirty pounds in 2008 after having lost 30 pounds in 2007. It sucks.
My individual introductory session last week was conducted by a fellow I would term as a straight Richard Simmons. He was just WAY too bouncy and enthusiastic. He’s giving me high fives for making it two minutes on the treadmill without falling on my ass and I’m rolling my eyes behind his back. Well, I rolled my eyes until I realized the whole place has mirrors so he was actually seeing me roll my eyes behind his back. I decided that since he was “helping me stretch” (actually trying to dislocate my hip like a chicken leg from the carcass), I’d better be nice. I put on my “Oh! I’m so happy to be here!” face after that.
“Dick” took me through several stretches and ran me through the modern torture machines on the floor to give me an idea of what I should be doing to “loosen up my hips”. Yeah right. That’s gym rat code for shrink my butt. As I’m gritting my teeth and hoping I have lots of Advil at home, I’m thinking “You know, someone somewhere actually designs these weird things. Who sits around and thinks of how to mechanically move the human body in every possible direction?” Sicko.
Prior to running the resistance machine gauntlet, Dick (actually, I think his name was David but who cares) did this thing he called “foam rolling” on the large muscles of my legs. Essentially, this was like taking a rolling pin and rolling the muscles like biscuit dough. It was awful! I don’t have biscuit dough muscles and I’m pretty sure they weren’t ever meant to be rolled like that. I silently decided that was for the birds and those foam things would never get near me again. Dick didn’t realize how close he came to being beat about the head with a sweaty towel. Lucky for him I’ve been through natural childbirth and can endure high levels of pain.
One of the problems I’ve always had with gyms is that it feels like there is an “in” crowd at the gym. They wear all the right work out clothes, have the expensive tennis shoes, and are so skinny that you wonder why they are at the gym anyway. Then you realize they actually LIVE here and you feel even more like an out-of-town visitor. The gym rats are also all in their twenties and have perpetual tans. That means they have no kids and fairly stressless jobs (like waiting tables at Hooters) so they can spend lots of time at the tanning booth or by the pool. And at the gym.
I certainly don’t fit in. I’m over 40, 40 pounds overweight and dressed like I just stepped out of Goodwill. My shoes are Payless specials and I have no electronic “gear” such as an Ipod or a cell phone arm band. I’m thinking maybe I should bring my kitchen timer along next time and pretend it’s some sort of new, cutting edge heart rate monitor or something. I could duct tape it to my calf or something. You know – just to blend in with the crowd.
Saturday was my first “real” day at the gym when I could do what I wanted to without Dick following me around counting reps and saying sappy encouraging things like “Feel the burn!” or
“No pain no gain”. I did my stretches I learned in 1983 from my Jane Fonda album and then got on the treadmill. I knew enough not to stand on it directly to start it but beyond that, it was like looking at the dashboard of the space shuttle. Buttons, lights flashing, all kinds of gauges and indicators. I decided to risk it and started going through the preflight – flaps down, trim up, fuel rich, hit the starter…okay, it’s moving. Now to taxi out carefully. I stepped on it and held onto the hand rails for dear life as I watched the dashboard for anomalies.
I finally figured out that one indicator was time that was counting up – that tells me how long it will take for me to drop dead. The next indicator tells me what incline I’m walking out – set that puppy to 0! The next one is speed. And the one on the far right tells number of calories burned. Okay, I’m getting the hang of this so I increase my speed to 3.1 mph. Not bad. I’m a naturally fast walker so this feels okay. I still can’t let go of the handlebars, though, because I get dizzy but I’m feeling less like an idiot. Confidence is building. I chuck the speed up to 3.5 and now we’re truckin’.
I notice there are TVs in front of me hanging from the ceiling. One is on ESPN (of course), one is on a music video channel, and one is on Fox News. The only one I can hear is the music channel and it has some weird group on it so I try to watch the Fox News channel. I can’t hear it but it has subtitles. I then realize I can’t SEE the subtitles without my glasses. I don’t have my glasses on because they would slide off my face with the sweat that is rapidly building. So I decide to try to read lips but soon realize I can check that off as one more thing I can’t do very well, along with biscuit roll muscles.
My breath is coming shorter and I notice my attitude is starting to change. I’m no longer just grumpy. I’m starting to think evil thoughts such as “Whoever invented treadmills should be shot”, “Whoever invented that foam roller thing should be tortured and then shot”, and “Whoever invented small print subtitles should have their eyes poked out”. I realize I’m breathing really hard and I glance down at the dashboard. I’ve only been on the dang thing five minutes, I’ve walked three-tenths of a mile and I’ve only burned 15 calories. WHAT??? This was going to be worse than I expected and I expected really bad.
Slowly I begin to realize there is a guy in front of me on one of the shoulder torture devices who continues to look at me. Now I KNOW it’s not because I’m a hot babe – HA – I’ve not had a shower, no makeup, I’m sweating like a racehorse, and my face probably looks like the hind-end of a baboon. Then it dawns on me why he’s staring at me. In my ignorance of gym etiquette, I had neglected to wear an athletic bra and instead just wore my regular old, stretched out, comfortable Playtex. Newton’s Third Law of Motion – for each action, there is an equal and opposite reaction – was in play under my “I gave blood” t-shirt. Oh brother.
I glanced at the dashboard and saw that I was halfway to my goal of 2 miles so I was darned if I was going to stop ‘cause my boobs were crashing around like ping pong balls in a gallon-size pickle jar. I’d burned a whopping 98 calories, dammit, and I was in the peak of the distance counter. I was going to finish this or die trying.
My only recourse was to give the guy my “evil Teacher Look”. Every teacher and most moms know this look, but former and current middle school teachers are best at it. It’s the look that says “I know what you are thinking and you are going to spend the rest of your life in detention if you don’t straighten up RIGHT NOW.” I leveled my gaze at him and fired away. It worked! Hah! It worked! He suddenly decided that his shoulders were shredded enough and decided to move across the room to the gorilla section.
Now that I was rid of Mr. Pervert, I decided to work on my attitude a bit. After all, I’m in sales and I know that attitude is more than half the battle. I’m also a pretty competitive person, especially with myself, so I decided to challenge myself to think positive thoughts. Positive thoughts. Okay. Think. What is good about this? My mental silence was deafening. It was so quiet that I could actually hear my ears ringing from the residual hangover of that long-ago Bruce Springsteen concert. I was a complete blank.
Suddenly, it was like God heard me and gave me inspiration. Miss Size 4 got on the treadmill directly to my left and started taxiing. I thought “Heh, I’ve got a head start on her! I’m already at a mile and a half!” As she’s tippy-toeing along at a leisurely warm-up speed of 2 mph, I kick it up to 3.7 and increase the incline to .5. I’ll show her! I’ve got this down. I used to be the fastest to complete a mile in my ninth grade gym class and that included the boys so I know I can beat her.
I glance at my dashboard and the heart rate monitor is flashing red. I wonder vaguely in the back of my mind if that is a bad thing. I wipe the sweat off my nose with my towel and keep going. I’m feeling confident then Miss Size 4 starts RUNNING! What is she doing? Isn’t there a rule that you can’t do that for safety reasons? You could get hurt or hurt someone else, right? I kick up the incline on my machine to 1.0. She may be running but I’m climbing Mt. Everest at 3.5 mph. Let’s see her match that!
Out of the corner of my eye, I see her treadmill start to rise at the front. My dashboard starts beeping loudly at me. I glance around for one of those portable defibrillators like they have now at airports because I’m starting to think I may need one. They do train these gym monitors how to do CPR, right? Just don’t let it be Dick that comes to my rescue. I’d rather die, please. Mr. Pervert can stay away, too. Just drag me out to the parking lot and let the Schwann’s truck run over me. That’s the way I want to go.
“Are you going to go into cool down or keep going?” It’s Miss Size 4 talking to me. She can run and talk at the same time? Holy cow! It’s Superwoman in disguise. I glance at her in oxygen-deprived confusion. “Huh?” I puff. “Your timer is going off” she says. I then realize the beeping sound of the dashboard isn’t the warning signal for eminent heart failure but rather that I’ve completed my assigned 2 miles and need to slow down to give my noodle legs a chance to recover before I actually try to walk on dry land.
I drop the incline on my machine so fast my ears pop and start backing off on the speed. I’m almost done, thank goodness. Mentally, I’m rummaging through my medicine cabinet for something more powerful than Advil because I’m pretty sure I’m going to need it. I glance up at the TVs once more and lo and behold – it’s Bon Jovi and their new video “Have a Nice Day”. Ah, Jon Bon Jovi! After all these years, he’s still hot and has great teeth.
Suddenly, I time travel back to 1984 when none of my joints creaked, Levi’s fit, and I could squat down without my feet going to sleep. I smile. I made it. Not only through this first two miles of pain but also through the last 25 years of life. I glance at Miss Size 4 and decide I wouldn’t trade places with her. I’ve learned a lot since I was a size four and endured more pain that this treadmill can dish out. My butt may be the size of a barn but my character is Olympic-class.
Now if I can just remember which locker is mine…
My individual introductory session last week was conducted by a fellow I would term as a straight Richard Simmons. He was just WAY too bouncy and enthusiastic. He’s giving me high fives for making it two minutes on the treadmill without falling on my ass and I’m rolling my eyes behind his back. Well, I rolled my eyes until I realized the whole place has mirrors so he was actually seeing me roll my eyes behind his back. I decided that since he was “helping me stretch” (actually trying to dislocate my hip like a chicken leg from the carcass), I’d better be nice. I put on my “Oh! I’m so happy to be here!” face after that.
“Dick” took me through several stretches and ran me through the modern torture machines on the floor to give me an idea of what I should be doing to “loosen up my hips”. Yeah right. That’s gym rat code for shrink my butt. As I’m gritting my teeth and hoping I have lots of Advil at home, I’m thinking “You know, someone somewhere actually designs these weird things. Who sits around and thinks of how to mechanically move the human body in every possible direction?” Sicko.
Prior to running the resistance machine gauntlet, Dick (actually, I think his name was David but who cares) did this thing he called “foam rolling” on the large muscles of my legs. Essentially, this was like taking a rolling pin and rolling the muscles like biscuit dough. It was awful! I don’t have biscuit dough muscles and I’m pretty sure they weren’t ever meant to be rolled like that. I silently decided that was for the birds and those foam things would never get near me again. Dick didn’t realize how close he came to being beat about the head with a sweaty towel. Lucky for him I’ve been through natural childbirth and can endure high levels of pain.
One of the problems I’ve always had with gyms is that it feels like there is an “in” crowd at the gym. They wear all the right work out clothes, have the expensive tennis shoes, and are so skinny that you wonder why they are at the gym anyway. Then you realize they actually LIVE here and you feel even more like an out-of-town visitor. The gym rats are also all in their twenties and have perpetual tans. That means they have no kids and fairly stressless jobs (like waiting tables at Hooters) so they can spend lots of time at the tanning booth or by the pool. And at the gym.
I certainly don’t fit in. I’m over 40, 40 pounds overweight and dressed like I just stepped out of Goodwill. My shoes are Payless specials and I have no electronic “gear” such as an Ipod or a cell phone arm band. I’m thinking maybe I should bring my kitchen timer along next time and pretend it’s some sort of new, cutting edge heart rate monitor or something. I could duct tape it to my calf or something. You know – just to blend in with the crowd.
Saturday was my first “real” day at the gym when I could do what I wanted to without Dick following me around counting reps and saying sappy encouraging things like “Feel the burn!” or
“No pain no gain”. I did my stretches I learned in 1983 from my Jane Fonda album and then got on the treadmill. I knew enough not to stand on it directly to start it but beyond that, it was like looking at the dashboard of the space shuttle. Buttons, lights flashing, all kinds of gauges and indicators. I decided to risk it and started going through the preflight – flaps down, trim up, fuel rich, hit the starter…okay, it’s moving. Now to taxi out carefully. I stepped on it and held onto the hand rails for dear life as I watched the dashboard for anomalies.
I finally figured out that one indicator was time that was counting up – that tells me how long it will take for me to drop dead. The next indicator tells me what incline I’m walking out – set that puppy to 0! The next one is speed. And the one on the far right tells number of calories burned. Okay, I’m getting the hang of this so I increase my speed to 3.1 mph. Not bad. I’m a naturally fast walker so this feels okay. I still can’t let go of the handlebars, though, because I get dizzy but I’m feeling less like an idiot. Confidence is building. I chuck the speed up to 3.5 and now we’re truckin’.
I notice there are TVs in front of me hanging from the ceiling. One is on ESPN (of course), one is on a music video channel, and one is on Fox News. The only one I can hear is the music channel and it has some weird group on it so I try to watch the Fox News channel. I can’t hear it but it has subtitles. I then realize I can’t SEE the subtitles without my glasses. I don’t have my glasses on because they would slide off my face with the sweat that is rapidly building. So I decide to try to read lips but soon realize I can check that off as one more thing I can’t do very well, along with biscuit roll muscles.
My breath is coming shorter and I notice my attitude is starting to change. I’m no longer just grumpy. I’m starting to think evil thoughts such as “Whoever invented treadmills should be shot”, “Whoever invented that foam roller thing should be tortured and then shot”, and “Whoever invented small print subtitles should have their eyes poked out”. I realize I’m breathing really hard and I glance down at the dashboard. I’ve only been on the dang thing five minutes, I’ve walked three-tenths of a mile and I’ve only burned 15 calories. WHAT??? This was going to be worse than I expected and I expected really bad.
Slowly I begin to realize there is a guy in front of me on one of the shoulder torture devices who continues to look at me. Now I KNOW it’s not because I’m a hot babe – HA – I’ve not had a shower, no makeup, I’m sweating like a racehorse, and my face probably looks like the hind-end of a baboon. Then it dawns on me why he’s staring at me. In my ignorance of gym etiquette, I had neglected to wear an athletic bra and instead just wore my regular old, stretched out, comfortable Playtex. Newton’s Third Law of Motion – for each action, there is an equal and opposite reaction – was in play under my “I gave blood” t-shirt. Oh brother.
I glanced at the dashboard and saw that I was halfway to my goal of 2 miles so I was darned if I was going to stop ‘cause my boobs were crashing around like ping pong balls in a gallon-size pickle jar. I’d burned a whopping 98 calories, dammit, and I was in the peak of the distance counter. I was going to finish this or die trying.
My only recourse was to give the guy my “evil Teacher Look”. Every teacher and most moms know this look, but former and current middle school teachers are best at it. It’s the look that says “I know what you are thinking and you are going to spend the rest of your life in detention if you don’t straighten up RIGHT NOW.” I leveled my gaze at him and fired away. It worked! Hah! It worked! He suddenly decided that his shoulders were shredded enough and decided to move across the room to the gorilla section.
Now that I was rid of Mr. Pervert, I decided to work on my attitude a bit. After all, I’m in sales and I know that attitude is more than half the battle. I’m also a pretty competitive person, especially with myself, so I decided to challenge myself to think positive thoughts. Positive thoughts. Okay. Think. What is good about this? My mental silence was deafening. It was so quiet that I could actually hear my ears ringing from the residual hangover of that long-ago Bruce Springsteen concert. I was a complete blank.
Suddenly, it was like God heard me and gave me inspiration. Miss Size 4 got on the treadmill directly to my left and started taxiing. I thought “Heh, I’ve got a head start on her! I’m already at a mile and a half!” As she’s tippy-toeing along at a leisurely warm-up speed of 2 mph, I kick it up to 3.7 and increase the incline to .5. I’ll show her! I’ve got this down. I used to be the fastest to complete a mile in my ninth grade gym class and that included the boys so I know I can beat her.
I glance at my dashboard and the heart rate monitor is flashing red. I wonder vaguely in the back of my mind if that is a bad thing. I wipe the sweat off my nose with my towel and keep going. I’m feeling confident then Miss Size 4 starts RUNNING! What is she doing? Isn’t there a rule that you can’t do that for safety reasons? You could get hurt or hurt someone else, right? I kick up the incline on my machine to 1.0. She may be running but I’m climbing Mt. Everest at 3.5 mph. Let’s see her match that!
Out of the corner of my eye, I see her treadmill start to rise at the front. My dashboard starts beeping loudly at me. I glance around for one of those portable defibrillators like they have now at airports because I’m starting to think I may need one. They do train these gym monitors how to do CPR, right? Just don’t let it be Dick that comes to my rescue. I’d rather die, please. Mr. Pervert can stay away, too. Just drag me out to the parking lot and let the Schwann’s truck run over me. That’s the way I want to go.
“Are you going to go into cool down or keep going?” It’s Miss Size 4 talking to me. She can run and talk at the same time? Holy cow! It’s Superwoman in disguise. I glance at her in oxygen-deprived confusion. “Huh?” I puff. “Your timer is going off” she says. I then realize the beeping sound of the dashboard isn’t the warning signal for eminent heart failure but rather that I’ve completed my assigned 2 miles and need to slow down to give my noodle legs a chance to recover before I actually try to walk on dry land.
I drop the incline on my machine so fast my ears pop and start backing off on the speed. I’m almost done, thank goodness. Mentally, I’m rummaging through my medicine cabinet for something more powerful than Advil because I’m pretty sure I’m going to need it. I glance up at the TVs once more and lo and behold – it’s Bon Jovi and their new video “Have a Nice Day”. Ah, Jon Bon Jovi! After all these years, he’s still hot and has great teeth.
Suddenly, I time travel back to 1984 when none of my joints creaked, Levi’s fit, and I could squat down without my feet going to sleep. I smile. I made it. Not only through this first two miles of pain but also through the last 25 years of life. I glance at Miss Size 4 and decide I wouldn’t trade places with her. I’ve learned a lot since I was a size four and endured more pain that this treadmill can dish out. My butt may be the size of a barn but my character is Olympic-class.
Now if I can just remember which locker is mine…
Tuesday, December 9, 2008
Driving Mrs. Crazy
Let me preface this post with an explanation (okay, it’s a blatant excuse) of why it has been so long since my last post. Every writer has a muse – some element on the inside that stirs thought and creativity and makes the words flow from the spirit to the page. In my case, my muse has been on strike from sheer overwork and has refused to produce for my personal blog due to the tremendous workload she carries for my normal job. I can understand that but it’s frustrating. As I write this, however, I am sitting in the Palm Beach International Airport awaiting my flight back to the real world. I am departing a weekend in Boca Raton where my muse has been wined and dined, sunned and oiled, massaged and pampered to the nth degree in our annual managers’ retreat. Now my muse is in a better mood and allowing ideas to flow again for this blog.
Transportation seems to play a big role in our family these days. Planes, trains and automobiles seem to be regular elements that touch the three of us. Hubby flies on a fairly regular basis to luxurious places like Boise and Omaha for work. I have the daily schlep to take the kid to school, run errands, etc. For our vacation in July, we tagged along with hubby to DC where we rode the subway daily.
Since September, son has added a new dimension to transportation because he received his learner’s permit. I have been surreptitiously giving him driving lessons for a couple of years on the Civic but now he is actually legal to drive so his territory for travel has expanded from the orchard and our country road to anywhere either hubby or I will let him take the wheel. The learner’s permit is one in several rites of passage ending, in my opinion, with becoming a parent several years down the road. Once you become a parent, you are truly an adult and for some mysterious reason your ability to stay up late, drink lots of alcohol, and see small print starts to disappear.
With the learner’s permit the perpetual “why?” of the three year old is now replaced with the perpetual “Can I drive?” of the fifteen year old. I have to give son credit – he’s a fairly good driver for a raw newbie. Of course, he’s never taken a driving lesson from his dad which I think has a lot to do with it. I’ve considered it MY job since fifth grade to teach this kid how to drive simply to do my level best to make sure he’s around to take care of me in my senile retirement. Allowing hubby to teach him how to drive would result in a minimum of one totaled vehicle within the first six months.
There was actually unspoken consensus that hubby would not be teaching son how to drive. Hubby has no patience and a lead foot. He also makes the monthly car payment when he pays the bills so it scrapes on his nerves when the kid gets behind the wheel of the new vehicle. He’s not worried about son’s life or the life of innocent bystanders but about whether the car will remain unscathed. Well, that might be a bit of an exaggeration but it’s definitely an element of concern.
Truth be told, I’d rather ride with my son behind the wheel than my husband. Son is still petrified of screwing up or putting a scratch on the car so he is extremely careful and follows directions. He acquiesces to the rule of no radio on while driving and doesn’t say a word when I say “Watch your speed”. On the other hand, if I even glance at the speedometer when hubby is driving he gets defensive and starts telling me to chill out. Hubby drives with his knees while dialing his cell phone or eating a burrito. Son cannot even open a bottle of Mountain Dew while driving so he keeps both hands at ten and two on the wheel and only takes a sip while stopped at a red light. I feel much safer riding with son.
Maybe part of my terror of riding with my husband is simply the fact that I’m getting older. I know the older my mother became, the more tense she was riding with someone else. I find myself gripping the door handle with the same white knuckles that she did and bracing my feet against the floorboard when brake lights ahead start coming on. I’ve discovered that I look further down the road than my husband. I can see cars starting to slow down long before he does. He sees nothing wrong with slamming on the brakes and swerving to the right to avoid ramming the car stopped ahead whereas I would have been braking a half mile earlier. His logic is that he’s never hit someone in the rear yet; there’s a fault in that thinking somewhere but I’m usually in such a state of terror that I can’t think of how to counter such a stupid statement.
Mapquest has had a huge impact on our family’s transportation. Usually, if we are going somewhere new, we Mapquest our destination prior to departure. Sometimes, though, we forget to run the search and end up a bit lost en route. In those instances, hubby pulls out the cell phone GPS service. When the cell phone appears, son and I know we are about to go from turned around to completely lost for hours. The cell phone is NEVER accurate in its directions but hubby puts his complete faith in the Phone. It doesn’t matter if the big huge signs all say turn right, if the Phone says turn left, hubby turns left.
Hubby’s undying belief in the Phone has led us to interesting discoveries of the swamps of South Carolina and small forgotten ghost towns in Florida. Son and I secretly call it the “Deliverance Phone” because we swear we hear banjo music in the background behind the voice on the Phone. We’ve discovered that one way signs can be ignored if the Phone says traveling the opposite way is the correct route. It must have some sort of traffic law-suspension powers. We have traversed the same stretch of road in both directions several times over because the Phone gets stuck in a “Recalculating route. Make a u-turn as soon as it is safely possible.” Of course, hubby gets uptight when son or I cautiously point out that we’ve now passed Larry’s Lounge and Bait Shop three times in the last ten minutes. Hubby simply contends that Larry must be franchised to multiple locations.
Hubby always wanted to be a jet pilot but he’s too tall. The Air Force would have required him to cut his legs off at the knees to be able to fly their planes. I think he secretly fantasizes he is flying a jet when he drives. I’m sure he is convinced a Honda Civic can achieve Mach 1 and heavy traffic conditions are just an opportunity to practice close formation flying. Like a Thunderbird pilot, hubby feels traveling 300 mph 7 inches from your wing man is a great accomplishment. I should note that Thunderbird pilots fly without anyone else in the cockpit. If they did, that person would be gripping the door handle and bracing his feet against the floorboard, too. I’m also pretty sure Thunderbirds have better navigation systems than the Deliverance Phone.
If we are going to be traveling far with hubby at the wheel, I’ve learned to double up on my beta blocker for my heart condition and add a dose of my anxiety medication to my normal dosage. I’m thoroughly convinced that if I WERE to start having a panic attack or heart palpitations, it would only cause hubby to drive faster; his logic would be that he sooner we reached our destination, the better.
Planes, trains and automobiles are definitely part of our family theme this year. I’m sure at some point “Throw Momma from the Train” has also arisen in some of the male minds in the household. Quite frankly, I think we are closest to “Crash” part of the time but most of the time it’s just “Driving Mrs. Crazy”.
Transportation seems to play a big role in our family these days. Planes, trains and automobiles seem to be regular elements that touch the three of us. Hubby flies on a fairly regular basis to luxurious places like Boise and Omaha for work. I have the daily schlep to take the kid to school, run errands, etc. For our vacation in July, we tagged along with hubby to DC where we rode the subway daily.
Since September, son has added a new dimension to transportation because he received his learner’s permit. I have been surreptitiously giving him driving lessons for a couple of years on the Civic but now he is actually legal to drive so his territory for travel has expanded from the orchard and our country road to anywhere either hubby or I will let him take the wheel. The learner’s permit is one in several rites of passage ending, in my opinion, with becoming a parent several years down the road. Once you become a parent, you are truly an adult and for some mysterious reason your ability to stay up late, drink lots of alcohol, and see small print starts to disappear.
With the learner’s permit the perpetual “why?” of the three year old is now replaced with the perpetual “Can I drive?” of the fifteen year old. I have to give son credit – he’s a fairly good driver for a raw newbie. Of course, he’s never taken a driving lesson from his dad which I think has a lot to do with it. I’ve considered it MY job since fifth grade to teach this kid how to drive simply to do my level best to make sure he’s around to take care of me in my senile retirement. Allowing hubby to teach him how to drive would result in a minimum of one totaled vehicle within the first six months.
There was actually unspoken consensus that hubby would not be teaching son how to drive. Hubby has no patience and a lead foot. He also makes the monthly car payment when he pays the bills so it scrapes on his nerves when the kid gets behind the wheel of the new vehicle. He’s not worried about son’s life or the life of innocent bystanders but about whether the car will remain unscathed. Well, that might be a bit of an exaggeration but it’s definitely an element of concern.
Truth be told, I’d rather ride with my son behind the wheel than my husband. Son is still petrified of screwing up or putting a scratch on the car so he is extremely careful and follows directions. He acquiesces to the rule of no radio on while driving and doesn’t say a word when I say “Watch your speed”. On the other hand, if I even glance at the speedometer when hubby is driving he gets defensive and starts telling me to chill out. Hubby drives with his knees while dialing his cell phone or eating a burrito. Son cannot even open a bottle of Mountain Dew while driving so he keeps both hands at ten and two on the wheel and only takes a sip while stopped at a red light. I feel much safer riding with son.
Maybe part of my terror of riding with my husband is simply the fact that I’m getting older. I know the older my mother became, the more tense she was riding with someone else. I find myself gripping the door handle with the same white knuckles that she did and bracing my feet against the floorboard when brake lights ahead start coming on. I’ve discovered that I look further down the road than my husband. I can see cars starting to slow down long before he does. He sees nothing wrong with slamming on the brakes and swerving to the right to avoid ramming the car stopped ahead whereas I would have been braking a half mile earlier. His logic is that he’s never hit someone in the rear yet; there’s a fault in that thinking somewhere but I’m usually in such a state of terror that I can’t think of how to counter such a stupid statement.
Mapquest has had a huge impact on our family’s transportation. Usually, if we are going somewhere new, we Mapquest our destination prior to departure. Sometimes, though, we forget to run the search and end up a bit lost en route. In those instances, hubby pulls out the cell phone GPS service. When the cell phone appears, son and I know we are about to go from turned around to completely lost for hours. The cell phone is NEVER accurate in its directions but hubby puts his complete faith in the Phone. It doesn’t matter if the big huge signs all say turn right, if the Phone says turn left, hubby turns left.
Hubby’s undying belief in the Phone has led us to interesting discoveries of the swamps of South Carolina and small forgotten ghost towns in Florida. Son and I secretly call it the “Deliverance Phone” because we swear we hear banjo music in the background behind the voice on the Phone. We’ve discovered that one way signs can be ignored if the Phone says traveling the opposite way is the correct route. It must have some sort of traffic law-suspension powers. We have traversed the same stretch of road in both directions several times over because the Phone gets stuck in a “Recalculating route. Make a u-turn as soon as it is safely possible.” Of course, hubby gets uptight when son or I cautiously point out that we’ve now passed Larry’s Lounge and Bait Shop three times in the last ten minutes. Hubby simply contends that Larry must be franchised to multiple locations.
Hubby always wanted to be a jet pilot but he’s too tall. The Air Force would have required him to cut his legs off at the knees to be able to fly their planes. I think he secretly fantasizes he is flying a jet when he drives. I’m sure he is convinced a Honda Civic can achieve Mach 1 and heavy traffic conditions are just an opportunity to practice close formation flying. Like a Thunderbird pilot, hubby feels traveling 300 mph 7 inches from your wing man is a great accomplishment. I should note that Thunderbird pilots fly without anyone else in the cockpit. If they did, that person would be gripping the door handle and bracing his feet against the floorboard, too. I’m also pretty sure Thunderbirds have better navigation systems than the Deliverance Phone.
If we are going to be traveling far with hubby at the wheel, I’ve learned to double up on my beta blocker for my heart condition and add a dose of my anxiety medication to my normal dosage. I’m thoroughly convinced that if I WERE to start having a panic attack or heart palpitations, it would only cause hubby to drive faster; his logic would be that he sooner we reached our destination, the better.
Planes, trains and automobiles are definitely part of our family theme this year. I’m sure at some point “Throw Momma from the Train” has also arisen in some of the male minds in the household. Quite frankly, I think we are closest to “Crash” part of the time but most of the time it’s just “Driving Mrs. Crazy”.
Friday, August 1, 2008
No Binney and Smith
‘Tis the season and I’m definitely in the holiday spirit – the spirit of Back to School. As a former teacher, I always get the itch at this time of year when I see the displays of pencils and folders in the stores. I feel like I need to be running off worksheets, writing lesson plans, and filling out my grade book. I think I get more excited about Back to School than I do about Christmas.
As a child, shopping for Back to School was exciting. My dad would take me to TG&Y (this was before Walmart hit town) or to Redford’s Ten Cent Store and buy my tablets, pencils, and best of all – a 64-count box of Crayola crayons with the sharpener on the back. I loved the new book bag, paste, and pencils, but I LOVED that new box of crayons.
I was a prolific colorer as a child. I could plow through a coloring book in no time. Back in the 70’s, every grocery store had a twirly stand by the checkout with comic books and coloring books. I anxiously awaited the newest editions of coloring books, especially ones that featured animals or holiday designs. I would go through crayons like crazy and they always had to be Crayola. Off-brand ones just didn’t color right – they’d smear or not cover well.
This morning, I stole a couple of hours away from work to head to Target to pick up a few things on my son’s high school supply list. I was appalled that crayons aren’t on the list for freshmen. It had to be a mistake. Surely, ninth graders need to color something – maps maybe or something for a science project? What about the periodic table? That would look good done in crayon. You would have to use some colors twice because there are more than 64 elements but you could do the noble gases all one color and then all the radioactive ones one color. Surely, there was a need for crayons in high school.
Alas, no matter how hard I looked, no crayons were listed for high school – not for sophomores, juniors or even seniors. Gelatin, a slinky, latex gloves, and disinfectant were (I don’t even want to know what FOR), but no crayons. The closest things were colored pencils and we still have about 3 sets of those left over from sixth grade.
No, I had no written justification for purchasing the big 64 count box of Crayola crayons. So I decided to sneak a box. I'd shred the receipt so no one would know. Besides, I would just write in a different color every day in my Day-Timer for the next 64 days. Oh the smell! It’s better than chocolate chip cookies! That smell takes away all the stress of being a grown up and catapults me back to the days of knee-high socks, Stretch Armstrong, and bicycle banana seats. One whiff and I’m free of worries about bills, college tuition, the rising price of gas, and the gray hairs that are starting to make me look like a skunk. Some candle company needs to make candles that smell like school supplies – crayons, mimeograph ink, paste, pencil shavings, chalk dust, and the smell of a newly varnished gym floor. They’d make a fortune.
I smuggled my crayons home with all the other stuff I purchased and saved that bag to empty until last. Furtively, I snuck them into my office and opened the flip-top lid (you have to do it just right so it doesn’t tear). I was so excited about my non-toxic purchase! I started looking for my old favorite colors – midnight blue, cornflower, and sienna. As I was pulling colors out, I noticed that some of them were different – they had gray wrappers instead of wrappers that matched the color of the crayon itself. What’s up with this? I pulled out a neon pink one and read the name – “famous”. WHAT? Where did that come from? Famous what? The neon orange one right beside it read “fun in the sun”. These are color names? Whose idiotic idea was this?
I glanced back at the front of the box. Right there in the corner it read “8 New Kids’ Choice Colors – By Kids – About Kids”. I was appalled. They had changed the 64-count box! If they had added 8 colors, that means they had to remove 8 colors. It’s not a 72-count box so something had to be missing! Oh horrors! Threads of panic started to set in and I thought briefly of the nitroglycerine tablets I carry in my purse.
I started reading the names of the new colors. In addition to “famous” and “fun in the sun”, there were “best friends”, “awesome”, “super happy”, “happy ever after”, “giving tree” and “bear hug”. Who in the hell came up with those stupid names? Don’t the people at Crayola know that the only hope for boys to ever understand the difference between the color peach and the color apricot is through the 64-count box of Crayola crayons?? They are handicapping an entire male generation! At some point in the future, some poor woman is going to say “I think we should paint the garage gray” and her husband will say, “Gray? What’s that? Is that like ‘bear hug’?”
To make it an even bigger shock – Crayola is now printing the color names in three languages – English, Spanish, and French. Spanish I tolerate because everything caters to our illegal alien population these days but FRENCH? Now don’t get me wrong. I took two years of French in high school, lived in Europe for three years, minored in Spanish in college, taught beginning Spanish in middle school and have piddled with Russian. Some of the first things you learn in a new language are the names of colors. If we want non-English speaking children to learn our language in our schools, would it not make sense to put the names of the crayon colors in just ENGLISH?
By that time, I’d also discovered that light green is now “granny smith apple” (without capitalization, mind you) and I just couldn’t take it. I needed to write to Binney & Smith and set them straight. I hunted around on the box for the address, noting with relief that they are still made in USA, only to find that Crayola is no longer owned by Binney & Smith but by – get this – Hallmark. The genesis of those sappy color names became crystal clear. Hallmark is in on it and they've made gay colors.
As I was sitting staring despondently at my brand new 64-count box of Crayola crayons, my son walked into the office. He saw my forlorn look and asked me what was wrong. Tearfully, I moan “They’ve changed the colors in the box!” Being the true loving son he is, he came over, gave me a hug and said, “Gee mom, I’m sorry. Growing up is hard, isn’t it. Want me to get you a glass of wine?”
As a child, shopping for Back to School was exciting. My dad would take me to TG&Y (this was before Walmart hit town) or to Redford’s Ten Cent Store and buy my tablets, pencils, and best of all – a 64-count box of Crayola crayons with the sharpener on the back. I loved the new book bag, paste, and pencils, but I LOVED that new box of crayons.
I was a prolific colorer as a child. I could plow through a coloring book in no time. Back in the 70’s, every grocery store had a twirly stand by the checkout with comic books and coloring books. I anxiously awaited the newest editions of coloring books, especially ones that featured animals or holiday designs. I would go through crayons like crazy and they always had to be Crayola. Off-brand ones just didn’t color right – they’d smear or not cover well.
This morning, I stole a couple of hours away from work to head to Target to pick up a few things on my son’s high school supply list. I was appalled that crayons aren’t on the list for freshmen. It had to be a mistake. Surely, ninth graders need to color something – maps maybe or something for a science project? What about the periodic table? That would look good done in crayon. You would have to use some colors twice because there are more than 64 elements but you could do the noble gases all one color and then all the radioactive ones one color. Surely, there was a need for crayons in high school.
Alas, no matter how hard I looked, no crayons were listed for high school – not for sophomores, juniors or even seniors. Gelatin, a slinky, latex gloves, and disinfectant were (I don’t even want to know what FOR), but no crayons. The closest things were colored pencils and we still have about 3 sets of those left over from sixth grade.
No, I had no written justification for purchasing the big 64 count box of Crayola crayons. So I decided to sneak a box. I'd shred the receipt so no one would know. Besides, I would just write in a different color every day in my Day-Timer for the next 64 days. Oh the smell! It’s better than chocolate chip cookies! That smell takes away all the stress of being a grown up and catapults me back to the days of knee-high socks, Stretch Armstrong, and bicycle banana seats. One whiff and I’m free of worries about bills, college tuition, the rising price of gas, and the gray hairs that are starting to make me look like a skunk. Some candle company needs to make candles that smell like school supplies – crayons, mimeograph ink, paste, pencil shavings, chalk dust, and the smell of a newly varnished gym floor. They’d make a fortune.
I smuggled my crayons home with all the other stuff I purchased and saved that bag to empty until last. Furtively, I snuck them into my office and opened the flip-top lid (you have to do it just right so it doesn’t tear). I was so excited about my non-toxic purchase! I started looking for my old favorite colors – midnight blue, cornflower, and sienna. As I was pulling colors out, I noticed that some of them were different – they had gray wrappers instead of wrappers that matched the color of the crayon itself. What’s up with this? I pulled out a neon pink one and read the name – “famous”. WHAT? Where did that come from? Famous what? The neon orange one right beside it read “fun in the sun”. These are color names? Whose idiotic idea was this?
I glanced back at the front of the box. Right there in the corner it read “8 New Kids’ Choice Colors – By Kids – About Kids”. I was appalled. They had changed the 64-count box! If they had added 8 colors, that means they had to remove 8 colors. It’s not a 72-count box so something had to be missing! Oh horrors! Threads of panic started to set in and I thought briefly of the nitroglycerine tablets I carry in my purse.
I started reading the names of the new colors. In addition to “famous” and “fun in the sun”, there were “best friends”, “awesome”, “super happy”, “happy ever after”, “giving tree” and “bear hug”. Who in the hell came up with those stupid names? Don’t the people at Crayola know that the only hope for boys to ever understand the difference between the color peach and the color apricot is through the 64-count box of Crayola crayons?? They are handicapping an entire male generation! At some point in the future, some poor woman is going to say “I think we should paint the garage gray” and her husband will say, “Gray? What’s that? Is that like ‘bear hug’?”
To make it an even bigger shock – Crayola is now printing the color names in three languages – English, Spanish, and French. Spanish I tolerate because everything caters to our illegal alien population these days but FRENCH? Now don’t get me wrong. I took two years of French in high school, lived in Europe for three years, minored in Spanish in college, taught beginning Spanish in middle school and have piddled with Russian. Some of the first things you learn in a new language are the names of colors. If we want non-English speaking children to learn our language in our schools, would it not make sense to put the names of the crayon colors in just ENGLISH?
By that time, I’d also discovered that light green is now “granny smith apple” (without capitalization, mind you) and I just couldn’t take it. I needed to write to Binney & Smith and set them straight. I hunted around on the box for the address, noting with relief that they are still made in USA, only to find that Crayola is no longer owned by Binney & Smith but by – get this – Hallmark. The genesis of those sappy color names became crystal clear. Hallmark is in on it and they've made gay colors.
As I was sitting staring despondently at my brand new 64-count box of Crayola crayons, my son walked into the office. He saw my forlorn look and asked me what was wrong. Tearfully, I moan “They’ve changed the colors in the box!” Being the true loving son he is, he came over, gave me a hug and said, “Gee mom, I’m sorry. Growing up is hard, isn’t it. Want me to get you a glass of wine?”
Sunday, July 6, 2008
Happy Fourth of July
I like the Fourth of July. Believe it or not, it was always my favorite holiday as a kid, even better than Christmas, I think. The Fourth was usually a big to-do with my family and any kind of to-do with my family was unusual just because of the rarity of such. We didn’t do a lot of big get-togethers so I usually enjoyed those that actually occurred. Christmas was nice but the Fourth had two things that I really liked – homemade, hand-cranked ice cream and the danger of losing body parts in an explosion.
The ice-cream is self-explanatory only it wasn’t until I grew up that I figured out the physics of how the cranking and the cold actually made ice-cream. I just figured the cranking bit was something to keep us kids busy (which it probably was) and the ice was something to make the cranking harder to do.
See, my dad never bought crushed ice for the ice-cream maker. Shoot, I don’t think they even sold the stuff in our county. No, we had to make it with the regular kind of ice that was the size of rocks from a gravel road. Those things inevitably got stuck under the cylinder thing in the ice-cream maker and required a lot of reversals, banging, and poking with a long, flat-head screwdriver to get unstuck. It made an interminable process even longer.
The result was always worth it. Mom never made regular ice cream with eggs and cream. If it had to be cooked, Mom didn’t make it which was also the reason I spent most of my childhood eating out in restaurants. No, Mom made ice cream with regular milk, vanilla, and sugar. The result was very similar to snow cream and was fantastic. Of course, since we only got it once a year that made it even more special.
My other favorite thing about the Fourth is the threat to life and limb. There were two major ways to hurt yourself on the Fourth. The first was if you went to the Kiwanis fireworks show at the high school stadium and fell down the bleachers. I’ve done that – more than once. The risk of that happening went up if there was a sudden, unexpected lightning storm in the middle of the show that caused the entire population of the county to start running for their cars in a torrential downpour.
One of my most vivid Fourth of July memories is one of seeing my mom running in a torrential downpour in front of me headed for the car holding a program over her beehive hairdo. Lightning was snapping everywhere and Daddy had a death grip on my hand. We had made it to the back of the concession stand and were crossing the grass when Mom tripped headlong, face first into a water-filled ditch. Dad and I forgot the storm and doubled over laughing. Mom didn’t see the humor. I have to give her credit though – she saved the ‘do. The rest of her was a muddy polyester mess but that ‘do made it through. I suspect it was the build-up of Aqua-Net that made the difference.
Thereafter every Fourth, we always talked about the lightning storm when Mom fell in the ditch. It became a family legend. We have many family legends that revolve around the Fourth, mainly because my older brother has a condition that makes for an exciting experience – he loves home fireworks and he’s blind as a bat in the dark.
Brother is thirteen years older than I and has always worn Coke-bottle glasses. He can barely see in the daylight but in any dim light, he’s completely night-blind. He’s never seen a star. He has to be led into and out of the movie theater. When he was in the Navy, he was not allowed on the ship’s deck after twilight for fear he would walk off the side. He is completely and totally blind in the dark. That didn’t stop either him or my dad from putting on a massive fireworks display on our street every year. In fact, it added to the excitement!
The day before the Fourth, Dad, Brother and I would head down to the fireworks stand and load up two large grocery sacks (they were the paper kind back then) with all kinds of fireworks. It was cool because they usually let me pick everything out being the spoiled rotten baby girl I was. Of course, I’d get the girly stuff like sparklers and lady fingers but we’d also get Roman candles, showers-of-sparks, bottle rockets, regular Black Cats, chasers and whistlers. Cherry bombs, smoke bombs, and stink bombs were my brother’s favorites because they could be shot off before dark. M-80’s were Dad’s favorites and he had a stock-pile of them for years after they were made illegal. All total, Dad probably spent a hundred bucks on fireworks every year and that was when you could get a box of sparklers for a quarter and a gross of bottle rockets for two bucks. You can imagine the massive amount of firepower we had.
When I was ten or so, Brother was in on leave from the Navy for the holiday. We were just getting started and the lightning bugs were just starting to come up out of the grass. For those of you who live in the South, you’ll realize that means there was still some light, at least enough to see fuses without flashlights. Or so we thought.
Brother was attempting to light a mortar shot and had just gotten the fuse going when, being blind, he tripped and knocked the mortar over. Dad yelled out “Incoming!” and bolted. Ice tea cups flew and lawn chairs tumbled as family and neighbors evacuated the area. My best friend Laura and I took cover in a ditch. Mom passed us doing about 35 with her cigarette clamped between her lips in an attempt to get around the side of the house to safety. We’d never seen grownups move so fast in our entire lives. Brother stood stock-still while the entire neighborhood made for cover around him. He later said he figured his odds of not getting shot were better than his odds of not running into a tree so he just froze. Turns out the only casualty was the neighbor’s cat who got a singed tail and lost three lives out of sheer terror when the mortar round missed its ass by millimeters. I swear that cat flew like Superman.
Brother always had close calls with fireworks but it didn’t deter him and it made for great entertainment for the rest of us. One year he lit a Roman candle and was holding it out in front of him like all the safety experts tell you not to do. The fact that he was holding it out in front of him turned out not to be the problem. The problem was he had it turned around backwards and shot himself in the stomach. After two shots, he got a clue and dropped it. Burned a hole straight through his shirt and made a big red mark on his belly. When he dropped it, it shot off toward Mom who again passed us doing 30 (she was older that year) trying to get around the corner of the house.
The Fourth before his wedding, Brother had his fiancée Susan to our house for the holiday. Susan, bless her sweet Baptist heart, hates fireworks; she is absolutely terrified of them. But, in her attempt to be a part of the family, she compromised that year and decided to sit in the car in the driveway while we shot off the annual display. She settled herself into her yellow Datsun and felt safe with the windows rolled up and the doors all locked. All was going well and the display was good, if a tad boring. Susan, feeling a bit comforted, not to mention sweaty walled up in an enclosed Datsun in July in
That chaser did the absolute impossible and flew a beeline directly through that one-inch gap in that window and got in the car with Susan. I couldn’t see her face but I could see the chaser going round and round inside that car and the screams that emanated from the interior were those of someone in free fall without a parachute. She couldn’t get out because she had locked the doors. She couldn’t get away and she couldn’t hide in a two-door subcompact of the seventies. Those of us watching could just see fire bouncing off walls and windows, and see the Datsun rocking as she tried to fight the thing off.
Of course, none of us were any help. We couldn’t even stand up because we were laughing so hard. When the chaser finally burned out and she was able to unlock the door, that sweet Baptist girl emerged cussing like a sailor. Her denim skirt was burned in multiple places and her perfectly hot-rollered hair was smoking in several quadrants. For twenty years thereafter, Susan spent the Fourth of July locked in the window-less bathroom at our house from 4:00 pm onward.
After he was married and had children of his own, Brother was still fun on the Fourth. I was with him and his kids one year in an undeveloped cul-de-sac of their neighborhood as they were putting on their own homegrown display. Brother had just lit a chaser and was backing away when he disappeared altogether. We all ran over to see what had happened to him to discover he had backed away too far in the dark and had fallen into a six-foot ditch flat of his back. Lucky for him, it was full of muddy water or he could have been hurt.
You know, now that I think about it, the Fourth of July and ditches seem to have some sort of weird connection for our family. I bet Susan wishes she had taken the ditch instead of the Datsun. At least she could have run for her life like Mom did.
The fireworks bug has been genetically passed to my son but unfortunately, due to circumstances, we have yet been able to spend a Fourth with my brother since my son has been old enough to get involved in the annual fireworks display. Maybe next year.
I saw on the news this afternoon that 37 people were hurt nationwide by fireworks this year. Heck, that’s not bad. I don’t see what gets safety people into such a tizzy about fireworks. I survived 42 years of near proximity to a blind man with a punk in his hand surrounded by explosives. If I made it through unscathed, the odds are good that most other people will. Unless of course, you are stuck in a yellow Datsun with the doors locked.
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